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And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.
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And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small."
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Your Lord is most knowing of what is within yourselves. If you should be righteous [in intention] - then indeed He is ever, to the often returning [to Him], Forgiving.
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And give the relative his right, and [also] the poor and the traveler, and do not spend wastefully.
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Indeed, the wasteful are brothers of the devils, and ever has Satan been to his Lord ungrateful.
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And if you [must] turn away from the needy awaiting mercy from your Lord which you expect, then speak to them a gentle word.
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And do not make your hand [as] chained to your neck or extend it completely and [thereby] become blamed and insolvent.
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Indeed, your Lord extends provision for whom He wills and restricts [it]. Indeed He is ever, concerning His servants, Acquainted and Seeing.
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And do not kill your children for fear of poverty. We provide for them and for you. Indeed, their killing is ever a great sin.
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And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way.
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And do not kill the soul which Allah has forbidden, except by right. And whoever is killed unjustly - We have given his heir authority, but let him not exceed limits in [the matter of] taking life. Indeed, he has been supported [by the law].
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And do not approach the property of an orphan, except in the way that is best, until he reaches maturity. And fulfill [every] commitment. Indeed, the commitment is ever [that about which one will be] questioned.
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And give full measure when you measure, and weigh with an even balance. That is the best [way] and best in result.
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And do not pursue that of which you have no knowledge. Indeed, the hearing, the sight and the heart - about all those [one] will be questioned.
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And do not walk upon the earth exultantly. Indeed, you will never tear the earth [apart], and you will never reach the mountains in height.
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That is from what your Lord has revealed to you, [O Muhammad], of wisdom. And, [O mankind], do not make [as equal] with Allah another deity, lest you be thrown into Hell, blamed and banished.
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Then, has your Lord chosen you for [having] sons and taken from among the angels daughters? Indeed, you say a grave saying.These verses can be called the Quranic version of the ten commandments.
Immediately after Allah mentions shirk, he mentions the rights of parents. In just one word. One word commands have a lot of impact and mean business e.g. SILENCE, QUIET. They have big impact. We need to be kind to parents especially in old age when they often become more irritable. That's when they need more attention and we need to be patient with them. Value their duas. Earn their duas. Our mothers almost died giving birth to us but we cannot even respond to her call/ We don't make our parents feel important although we are the most important thing to them. They carry that pain daily that they are worthless for their children and not worth their time.
Uff is an Arabic word for the sign of frustration. Uff is not even a word. It is an expression e.g. saying something under your breath, the faces you make, the rolling of your eyes. Don't you dare show even a sign of frustration. Speak in a noble, gentle, respectful tone and manner. Go out of the way and be extra nice to them. Apologize for being ungrateful, for talking back, for our disobedience. Lower the wings of powerlessness before them. Humans are being compared to birds, we have the power to raise our wings and show what we are made of and not submit to them. But we lower our wings and don't talk back and we submit to them. The older parents become, the more they act like children. We need to be understanding. You have the power to respond but you don't.
Lowering wings also means to protect them just like a bird protects their nest.
We do this out of love and care(Rahmah).
Allah created human beings with the ability to show love and care. Human beings have the capacity to care for others. This is an innate part of being human.
The second meaning is to show love and care to them because our parents showed love and care to us all our lives. It is reciprocal,
The third meaning has to do with our relationship with Allah. If you want love care and mercy of Allah then you need to show it to your parents.
My gardeners were my parents. A seed can do nothing on its own. It needs to be planted,watered,nourished,taken care of etc. So Allah, have mercy on them as they had mercy on me.
Your Lord knows better what is within yourselves. We have a habit of defending ourselves mentally and verbally and we rationalize and justify our actions by thinking that what we are doing is good enough. This makes us inflexible so we don't take advice and we think we are already doing good enough. Remember, you are never doing enough because there is no limit to how much effort you need to make in Allah's path. We often justify ourselves based on the compliments other people give us. We need to be honest. Learn to admit you are wrong. Allah is exceedingly merciful and forgiving for those who are awwabeen. But we need to mean it when we apologize. Sorry means we make an effort not to do it again. You need to bring a serious change in yourselves. It can happen again by mistake but you should not plan on doing the sin again.
True athletes never give up on themselves when they lose. But there are some people who listen too much to what other people say about them. You shouldn't let people's compliments or insults affect you.
Give the relative/everybody close to you, their right. We often forget relatives and give to fundraisers instead. Miskeen is someone who is stuck in a situation and does not have the ability to get out of it. Some people cannot handle money so you can help them by investing for them in the right place. SO be careful while giving sadaqah. Help the son of the road, the traveller. We need to be more welcoming as hosts.
Don't mindlessly spend all over the place. Israaf is when you need something but you go overboard and take more than you need. Tabzeer is when you spend on something you don't even need. You just spend mindlessly and aimlessly. Rich people set high standards and the poor try to follow them and spend beyond their income. It sets the wrong trend in society.
Sometimes it might happen that somebody is really needy and they suppress their dignity and ask you directly for a favour, and you are not in a position to help them. Then, you must turn them away very softly and not in a way that might hurt them.
Some people are so cheap with money that it kills them to reach their pockets and spend. Don't have your hands chained to their necks. Some people, on the other hand, have their hands spread open so they spend unnecessarily even on those things that are not needed. Everything comes in their way and they don't think before spending.
Do not kill children out of fear of poverty, before birth or after. Don't go near zina(illegitimate relationships). The Quran doesn't say don't do zina. Zina is often mentioned with qatl so that shows the magnitude of this sin. Imagine this sin being in the middle of a circle, and there is a gravitational pull around it which is invisible, and if you get too close to it then you will be sucked in . Since it is invisible, you can never tell where this gravitational field begins, and by the time you realize the pull, it is probably too hard to resist the force and you get pulled into sin. That is why Allah tells us to not even go near it. The society of Makkah was immersed in this sin but the Qur'an transformed them into a society full of haya. We usually start illicit relationships through innocent gestures and actions. We try to draw the opposite sex and rope them in, bit by bit. We don't realize what we are getting into and we just act upon the feelings we feel. In Islam, when men marry women, they bring them into their fort. They become Muhsin and they protect the women in every way.
Another negative of getting into these relations is that we often get scarred by these relationships and then we are unable to give anything to real relationships. We become incapable of giving where its needed. We get into relationships just to fulfill our lust and the more relationships we get into, the more animal we become. If we really think someone is suitable as a match for us then we should just tell our parents instead of doing anything wrong. In the story of Musa AS, the daughter expressed that Musa AS was a good man so her father should hire him, and her father got the hint and asked Musa AS to marry her.
Do not kill anyone unjustly, unless it is your right(by law,authority etc.). Don't go overboard even when taking Qisas. Do not take from the wealth of orphans. People often take care of orphans but they use their wealth often but they need to know that they are only custodians and they can only spend ON the orphan. Give their money to them when they develop a sense of responsibility.
Fulfill every commitment. Everything you say, pledge,sign, and commit to, every law, your job, your duties, every pact, you HAVE to follow it. We are answerable to Allah for EVERYTHING. Even if nobody can see you cheating, Allah can. And when you give people weight, give them justly. We often exaggerate and give the wrong information while buying and selling. When we are dishonest, we get short term benefits but people will run away from that businessman eventually. And if you are honest, then people will come to you just because of your reputation and you may earn less per person but you will have many more customers. We should be honest even if it goes against our own relatives.
Do not pursue that about which you have no knowledge. We have a habit of gossiping and spreading rumours about other peoples lives. We don't even try to confirm anything. We too easily give in to conspiracy theories, gossips, rumours and superstitions. Even in deen, we follow things without authenticating them. We need to develop an educated ummah who has basic knowledge of deen, so that we can ask intelligent questions from scholars. We need to know the difference between scholars and daaes.
Qalb comes for taqallub which means to change. Heart is constantly changing physically and emotionally and spiritually. Fuad is used for heart in strange situations. Fuad means something that is being roasted. Sometimes our heart becomes really excited so it is like it's on fire. It happenes whenever we experience extremes of emotions. Prophet SAWW job of doing dawah was also overwhelming and needed a lot of motivation. We run out of steam too, often we start with a lot of motivation but then we burn out. How do we maintain that? Keep turning back to Allah through prayer so that you remain in the state of fuaad and enthusiasm constantly and you never burn out, The Prophet SAWW was given Quran little by little so that he never lost the enthusiasm. This is one of his miracles because the Quran was revealed directly on his heart.
We often become very overwhelmed by our emotions.We snap when we are angry or do things we shouldn't be doing or say things we shouldn't be saying. And we often justify this negative state of fuad and we think we are not responsible for whatever we do in those extreme states. Allah says that He will ask about the state of fuaad. We need to watch out.
Allah used the word oolaaiyka for hearing,sight and hearts which are things and NOT people. This shows that on judgement day these things will be given the power to speak and testify.
Do not work on Earth with Marra(arrogance). It is about the attitude,body language and how you carry yourself. Don't look down on others. Don't be weak and powerless either. Be firm. All of these are detested evils in Allah's sight. Do not make anyone equal with Allah. Do not worship your own nafs or your desires or any other worldly idol, basically don't give anyone preference over Allah.
People used to bury daughters alive in those dark times and used to consider them a source of shame and inferior. They used to shun them or disown them or kill them. The Prophet SAWW raised the status of women so much that anybody who took care of them would enter into Jannah! Daughters became a ticket to Jannah. Allah basically says to the pagans that they do not prefer daughters for themselves so why do they associate them with Allah? Why are their preferences different? It shows the attitude that the jews had developed. They wanted the best for themselves and only liked giving the leftovers to God. Their lives were dedicated to their ownselves and they only gave the bare minimum to Allah. We do the same now in our ibadah. We only do the bare minimum and plan our lives around our worldly obligations. We are supposed to do everything for the sake of Allah and go out of the way. We should identify our talents and use them for the sake of deen InshaaAllah. If you make your objective to serve deen, then Allah will give you dunya like nothing. The dunya will come at your feet. If we do what Allah wants, then Allah gives us what we want.
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